“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.” -unknown
Have you ever considered that what is going on inside your mind may be preventing you from finding real love? Mastering your psychology can be one of the most powerful things you can do to increase your likelihood of finding real, true, lasting love.
You may think you are protecting yourself from getting hurt with the defense mechanisms you have put in place. However, you are more likely to be hindering real love because of your reticence to remain vulnerable.
The truth is there is no way to remain open-hearted and amenable to love without risk. Love requires risk! Yet, it can be frightening to consider the possibility of disappointment or having your heart broken.
There are three kinds of thoughts which most frequently plague single women. You may sometimes be aware of these thoughts, yet they may also be subconscious. In either case, they may be sabotaging your progress toward an ideal relationship.
*Fear can be a great deterrent to love because it can literally stop you in your tracks. It can cause you to hesitate taking any risk and can diminish your confidence and faith. Do you notice fearful thoughts when you consider a relationship or marriage? It is important to differentiate between real and imagined fears. Take wise action based on faith rather than fear.
*Fantasies can also be an enemy to a wonderful relationship. Do you believe the right man will come into your life with no effort or energy on your part? Do you believe you will only be happy when you have a partner? The truth is you are responsible for your own decisions and your own happiness. By taking control of your own life, you have the power to create a life you truly love. You can craft a good life for yourself and are more likely to attract someone amazing. Together, as partners, you can share the ups and downs in life as they come.
*Falsehoods are the lies you may hear in your head. These are depressing and discouraging beliefs that sap your hope and strength. The scary thing about these beliefs is if you allow them to linger you may actually begin to believe they are true. Falsehoods are mean and critical thoughts you have about yourself or others. They undermine your ability to trust and cause you to doubt your own worthiness or the sincerity of others. It is important to challenge these thoughts when they arise and whenever possible replace them with something more positive.
As you make the effort to pay attention to what is going on in your mind you may be able to identify and remove some of your biggest obstacles to love. Don’t allow your fears, fantasies or falsehoods to prevent you from having the love, joy and contentment you seek.
Source by Michelle Marchant Johnson